The silence at the political levels affect everyone at all levels. Those in power positions effectively shut down the dialogue that we need to further the needs of humanity at the nation, community, family and individual levels.
The silence that I want to shine light on is the one that occurs in all families.
I wrote a poem about the fear of children of bringing up difficult topics that their parents don't want to talk about and the impact of that silence, those secrets on their children. At the heart of my book "The Inheritors" is the emptiness and pain that is left for the child to carry. Further, if that child doesn't have the opportunity to express their pain, their secret becomes a burden and a void for their children. This is why our societies are destined to repeat history with all it's weaknesses and its strengths. How much better off we would be in building on the strengths of our ancestors if we could only tell our stories, however painful they may be.
I Haven’t Been Listening
I haven’t been listening
To what you haven’t been saying
I haven’t wanted to hear
What you haven’t wanted to say
Words left unspoken
Melt into nothing
It’s really a sad and empty thing
When words don’t belong anywhere
Because they’ve been left unsaid
When arms remain empty
Because they can hold no truth
When love is in turmoil
Because it doesn’t have a place to rest
And time is in limbo
Always waiting, always waiting, always
I believe in the magic of the group. In groups, people can share their stories, be validated for their feelings, and supported in helping them transcend their pain. I would like to invite anyone who would like to co-host a group dialogue to get in touch with me and we will work out a plan to make it happen. I will train you in the simple rules that I follow to make sure the space we create is safe for everyone. The tools we will use can be based on my book, The Inheritors: Moving Forward from Generational Trauma, but they can also emerge depending on the group.
If you are interested in participating in transformative dialogue or in a poetry writing workshop, write to me as well. I can also provide one on one counselling in person or by skype if you are not in the Ottawa area.
Let's do good work together!
So pleased to have received this review from the prestigious Library Journal and the rich 5 star review on Amazon.
Amazon Review, June 26, 2017
by Dr. Shamai Currim, Psychotherapist, Educator, Educational Consultant
The Inheritors: Moving Forward from Generational Trauma by Gita Arian Baack, PhD …is a book of courage, strength, endurance, and resilience, and one of the most comprehensive books I have ever read.
The Holocaust of the Second World War is just one of the many genocides that have occurred and touched generations of people. In this book of hope, Gita Arian Baack, PhD, a counsellor, consultant, team coach, facilitator, author, speaker, and founder of the Centre for Transformational Dialogue, takes us on a journey of understanding compassion. As she reminds us of the importance of speaking our stories, she gives credit and acknowledged awareness of the many who have supplied the scientific proof to our lived experiences and even the historical events that many prefer not to remember. The history of man is one that encompasses both acts of kindness as well as acts of deep refusal to accept the dark side of the reality of humanity.
Dr. Baack uses this book to guide and allow the reader to move along on their own, personal journey, from exploring, to speaking, to being witnessed, and finally acknowledging their own, innate wisdom. Throughout the book there are exercises that reinforce the presented material, bringing the unknown to light and shining a path into the future.
There are many denouncers of traumatic genocides, and we are reminded that to remain silent has affected many generations, and will continue to affect many more, until we take the courage to speak out and seek retribution through the witnessing of the unimaginable.
Dr. Arian Baack is to be applauded for her fortitude in not only following through on her own search; she continues to beckon others to find their own legacies.
As a child of Holocaust survivors, I observed that some children grow up to be resilient and successful while others are unable to take risks and live full lives. I also suffered a strong sense of loss and pain from the killing of my father's first children, and his first wife, my half brother and sister. Their death haunted me. What was puzzling was that I felt I knew that they were shot. Another question. My desire to understand resilience, memory, inherited trauma, led me to a Doctorate researching what I call “Inherited trauma.”
I discovered many similarities between the experience of Inheritors whose families lived through war, slavery, displacement, residential schools, children of the military especially vets with PTSD, people, devastating events such as economic or environmental, court injustices, poverty, illness in the family, abuse and other kinds of trauma. I wondered about the shame and guilt of descendants of perpetrators and bystanders. I realized that there was an urgent need for our generation to process our trauma if we are to reclaim a whole life and if we are to stop passing on the trauma to our future generations. My book is in fact a warning that if our trauma is not processed, the pain, anger and even hatred and violence will continue to future generations. The cycle must be interrupted. While recognizing that inherited trauma is difficult to recognize and difficult to treat, my book offers help. In particular, it offers a way to process your story from your context. You will not find 1-2-3 step solutions. One of the tools are questions at the end of each chapter which will assist you to reflect on and write your own story. I look forward to hearing your stories and about the resources you used (your own or from my book) to moving forward.